Is my Husband Seeing Prostitutes?

My post on married men and prostitutes has brought in a significant amount of traffic and feedback.  One of the more interesting things that came from the post is hearing stories from women who have caught their husbands cheating on them with prostitutes.  So I thought I would write a quick post with tips to see if your husband is seeing a prostitute.

To best catch your husband, it will help to understand how prostitutes work.  First off, there are different types of prostitutes.  There are your street walkers, your escort agency hookers, the brothel prostitute, and your high-end escorts/companions.

Let’s start with the street walkers.  A typical street walker is going to charge between $20 – $100 (typically $30 – $40), and usually perform the act while in a car.  Since even scumbag husbands have some level of self-preservation, there is likely to be condoms involved.  And that is your first clue.  Condom wrappers in the car is an obvious sign that something is up.  Also, odd charges on a bank card at a drug store of gas station could be condoms.  If you see a charge for gas, and then a separate charge for inside the gas station, you may want to check if they carry condoms, and how much they cost, so that you can compare that to the purchase.  Then ask your husband what he bought.  If what he says doesn’t match the charge, and the price of a pack of Trojans does, he’s busted.

Moving on to escort agencies, these places take credit cards.  Look for any charges for things like “Airport Services”, “Mobile Assistants”, “Hotel Services” or “Massage Service”  .  And if in doubt, call your credit card company and ask them what type of company made these charges.  Believe it or not, the credit card company will sometimes be able to tell if the company is an escort agency.

Also keep in mind the typical charge for an escort agency via credit card is about $300 – $700.  If you see a suspicious charge from the same company twice in the same day, that could be an escort agency.  Escort agencies charge for having the girl show up to the room.  Once there, it’s up to the girl and the client what happens and the cost.  They will sometimes hit the card when the girl gets there, and then hit is again for the girls “tip”.

Phone records are also a good indication.  If your husband has half a brain, he’s not going to call the agency from his mobile phone, knowing you could see the call.  So check with the hotel if any local calls were made from the room.

Brothels are highly unusual, and not likely unless your husband has gone to Nevada, or out of the country.  Still, know these places take credit cards as well, and are not as stealthy as the escort agency at hiding the charges.  Look for charges of about $500 – $1000.

The independent escort is the more common approach these days.  Most advertise on the Web, allowing men to check out the goods through pictures first.  These escorts do not usually take credit cards, although some do use Paypal.  Usually these are cash transactions.  There is a common thought that anyone taking out hundreds of dollars from an ATM after midnight is up to no good.  Keep in mind that these girls typically charge around $300, because that’s what men can take out of an ATM at any time.  So look for late night withdrawals.

And because these girls are often contacted through the Web, you can often find good evidence through your husbands computer.  Check his browser history, and his cache.  Search the machine for pictures.  Sites like eros-guide.com, or Craigslist.org are the most often paces where guys go shopping for hookers.  If your husband is traveling to a different state, check out the local Craigslist for that state on his computer.  You should be able to tell if he has clicked the links for the “erotic services” section.

Keep in mind that when confronted, he will of course lie.  And when shown 100% proof, he will claim that it was his first and only time.  This will be a lie.

638 thoughts on “Is my Husband Seeing Prostitutes?

  1. ILoveMyWife

    As my wonderful wife tells me “sex is easy, its feelings that get in the way”. I do firmly agree with her, and I will always agree with that statement no matter how long I live. If a man feels the need to go and visit a prostitue, then by all means visit a prostitute. If a wife feels the need for the same thing then she is entitled to do the same thing as well. I am not saying that it is right for spouses to do that to eachother, but I will say this about it. Guys if you want to go out and get some strange, why not talk to your wife about it…granted I do not have the most normal of marriages, but I can tell my wife anything in this world. Ladies, be more excepting of what the men are saying…don’t blow them off or call them perverts just because that is what society is dictating you do. If you can both agree as a couple to allow another woman (or man) in the bedroom then share and enjoy. There needs to be no feelings attached to this person, but it opens many doors and will if you have a strong marriage make the two of you that much closer.

    Swinging is a lifestyle choice, and you always need to go into any situation with an open mind, and the ability to tell your spouse that you are not comfortable with a situation. PROTECTION PROTECTION PROTECTION!!!!!! Not everyone in the world is as clean as your wife or husband (not from experience) should be so make sure all precautions are taken. Swining couples tend to have much healthier relationships due to the fact that they are open to talking with eachother about situations in which on or the other would otherwise have to hide…according to society that is. For instance ladies, say your man is walking with you in a grocery store and he sees a female that is very attractive….in the world we live in automatically he is going to look away and hide what he is thinking. Instead why don’t you point her out and ask what he thinks of “that”…turn the female into an object much like a box of cereal on the shelf rather than a real person that he can think to himself as a “spank bank” or “I could have her if it wasn’t for my wife”.

    By talking about these things with your spouse you should be able to affectivly open communication lines and stop the want for a prostitute and replace the need for it with yourself…or another swinging couple.

    For the guys always remember that even though your wife is not putting out so to speak she is still a very sexual being and needs your attention. Never in your life should you ever stop complementing and flirting with your wife or as I like to call it “spitting game”. Let her know how important she is to you and how beautiful you think she is…even on days that she is wearing sweats and cleaning up after the kids (even runway models love to drop the makeup and lounge, let your wife) she will still need that reassurance from you. Even if she says “stop lying” or even “you have to say that cause we are married”. NEVER STOP TELLING HER YOU LOVE HER!

    I have rambled long enough, and kept on topic about as look as a Hooker stays in church….thought I would try a bit of a joke. I will quote myself here being that is for the most part what I have been doing to end this. The key to any great relationship is communication, if you have that then you have the world in your hands.

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  2. ILoveMyWife

    As my wonderful wife tells me “sex is easy, its feelings that get in the way”. I do firmly agree with her, and I will always agree with that statement no matter how long I live. If a man feels the need to go and visit a prostitue, then by all means visit a prostitute. If a wife feels the need for the same thing then she is entitled to do the same thing as well. I am not saying that it is right for spouses to do that to eachother, but I will say this about it. Guys if you want to go out and get some strange, why not talk to your wife about it…granted I do not have the most normal of marriages, but I can tell my wife anything in this world. Ladies, be more excepting of what the men are saying…don’t blow them off or call them perverts just because that is what society is dictating you do. If you can both agree as a couple to allow another woman (or man) in the bedroom then share and enjoy. There needs to be no feelings attached to this person, but it opens many doors and will if you have a strong marriage make the two of you that much closer.

    Swinging is a lifestyle choice, and you always need to go into any situation with an open mind, and the ability to tell your spouse that you are not comfortable with a situation. PROTECTION PROTECTION PROTECTION!!!!!! Not everyone in the world is as clean as your wife or husband (not from experience) should be so make sure all precautions are taken. Swining couples tend to have much healthier relationships due to the fact that they are open to talking with eachother about situations in which on or the other would otherwise have to hide…according to society that is. For instance ladies, say your man is walking with you in a grocery store and he sees a female that is very attractive….in the world we live in automatically he is going to look away and hide what he is thinking. Instead why don’t you point her out and ask what he thinks of “that”…turn the female into an object much like a box of cereal on the shelf rather than a real person that he can think to himself as a “spank bank” or “I could have her if it wasn’t for my wife”.

    By talking about these things with your spouse you should be able to affectivly open communication lines and stop the want for a prostitute and replace the need for it with yourself…or another swinging couple.

    For the guys always remember that even though your wife is not putting out so to speak she is still a very sexual being and needs your attention. Never in your life should you ever stop complementing and flirting with your wife or as I like to call it “spitting game”. Let her know how important she is to you and how beautiful you think she is…even on days that she is wearing sweats and cleaning up after the kids (even runway models love to drop the makeup and lounge, let your wife) she will still need that reassurance from you. Even if she says “stop lying” or even “you have to say that cause we are married”. NEVER STOP TELLING HER YOU LOVE HER!

    I have rambled long enough, and kept on topic about as look as a Hooker stays in church….thought I would try a bit of a joke. I will quote myself here being that is for the most part what I have been doing to end this. The key to any great relationship is communication, if you have that then you have the world in your hands.

    Reply
  3. ILoveMyWife

    As my wonderful wife tells me “sex is easy, its feelings that get in the way”. I do firmly agree with her, and I will always agree with that statement no matter how long I live. If a man feels the need to go and visit a prostitue, then by all means visit a prostitute. If a wife feels the need for the same thing then she is entitled to do the same thing as well. I am not saying that it is right for spouses to do that to eachother, but I will say this about it. Guys if you want to go out and get some strange, why not talk to your wife about it…granted I do not have the most normal of marriages, but I can tell my wife anything in this world. Ladies, be more excepting of what the men are saying…don’t blow them off or call them perverts just because that is what society is dictating you do. If you can both agree as a couple to allow another woman (or man) in the bedroom then share and enjoy. There needs to be no feelings attached to this person, but it opens many doors and will if you have a strong marriage make the two of you that much closer.

    Swinging is a lifestyle choice, and you always need to go into any situation with an open mind, and the ability to tell your spouse that you are not comfortable with a situation. PROTECTION PROTECTION PROTECTION!!!!!! Not everyone in the world is as clean as your wife or husband (not from experience) should be so make sure all precautions are taken. Swining couples tend to have much healthier relationships due to the fact that they are open to talking with eachother about situations in which on or the other would otherwise have to hide…according to society that is. For instance ladies, say your man is walking with you in a grocery store and he sees a female that is very attractive….in the world we live in automatically he is going to look away and hide what he is thinking. Instead why don’t you point her out and ask what he thinks of “that”…turn the female into an object much like a box of cereal on the shelf rather than a real person that he can think to himself as a “spank bank” or “I could have her if it wasn’t for my wife”.

    By talking about these things with your spouse you should be able to affectivly open communication lines and stop the want for a prostitute and replace the need for it with yourself…or another swinging couple.

    For the guys always remember that even though your wife is not putting out so to speak she is still a very sexual being and needs your attention. Never in your life should you ever stop complementing and flirting with your wife or as I like to call it “spitting game”. Let her know how important she is to you and how beautiful you think she is…even on days that she is wearing sweats and cleaning up after the kids (even runway models love to drop the makeup and lounge, let your wife) she will still need that reassurance from you. Even if she says “stop lying” or even “you have to say that cause we are married”. NEVER STOP TELLING HER YOU LOVE HER!

    I have rambled long enough, and kept on topic about as look as a Hooker stays in church….thought I would try a bit of a joke. I will quote myself here being that is for the most part what I have been doing to end this. The key to any great relationship is communication, if you have that then you have the world in your hands.

    Reply
  4. Ramon Kent

    Interesting article but recommendation to check to browser history is not sophisticated enough. All modern browser are equipped with privacy mode (no history recorded etc). If the guy is smart enough he can use that. Only way to catch this is enabling logging on home router (if he doesn’t manage it!) or use some kind of spy program for his computer (assuming the woman is the better with computers)

    Of course he probably won’t use his mobile phone-pay phones are cheap at Walmart, and all sorts of calling apps are available for smart phones. Get a stealth app for the smart phone to log calls and texts…

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    1. Ed Shull Post author

      You’re clearly not reading the comments on some of these posts. Most guys are too lazy to implement any sort of covert plan other than lying.

      Reply
  5. Ramon Kent

    Interesting article but recommendation to check to browser history is not sophisticated enough. All modern browser are equipped with privacy mode (no history recorded etc). If the guy is smart enough he can use that. Only way to catch this is enabling logging on home router (if he doesn’t manage it!) or use some kind of spy program for his computer (assuming the woman is the better with computers)

    Of course he probably won’t use his mobile phone-pay phones are cheap at Walmart, and all sorts of calling apps are available for smart phones. Get a stealth app for the smart phone to log calls and texts…

    Reply
    1. Ed Shull Post author

      You’re clearly not reading the comments on some of these posts. Most guys are too lazy to implement any sort of covert plan other than lying.

      Reply
  6. To

    The consequences and effects of marrying teh wrong guy!!! The guy who marries the wrong woman WILL try to compensate , aka prostitutes. So ladies and gentlemen make sure you marry the right guy and for the right reason.

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  7. To

    The consequences and effects of marrying teh wrong guy!!! The guy who marries the wrong woman WILL try to compensate , aka prostitutes. So ladies and gentlemen make sure you marry the right guy and for the right reason.

    Reply
  8. Jaimie

    I got a phone call from a man asking for my husband on my cell phone. I took a message and told my husband to call back. He got defensive and said I don’t know who she is. He called the number next to me and I could hear her voice. She said do u remember me from yesterday? He said I don’t know u and hung up on her. A few hours later I texted her pretending to be him. I finally said I was his wife and she called me and said she was a hooker and they had intercourse. I showed him the messages and threw him out of the house. There was not a lack of sex in our relationship. As a matter of fact we had sex the same night the he saw the hooker. It is now 4 days later and he denies that they had intercourse. Only admits to her performing oral sex on him for $30. Disgusting. We have been married for 12 years and he blames me for his choice to seek out a whore. I know it is not my fault, but it still hurts like hell. He swears it was the first time but I find it hard to believe that someone gets caught at there first time

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  9. donedeal

    Those are excellent ways to determine if your man is cheating. I had to search for months, saw patterns in bank withdrawals in certain areas of town, confronted him and dared him to respond with a lie! He’s crazy to think that I WANT TO SPEND MY TIME BABYSITTING!!!!

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  10. donedeal

    Those are excellent ways to determine if your man is cheating. I had to search for months, saw patterns in bank withdrawals in certain areas of town, confronted him and dared him to respond with a lie! He’s crazy to think that I WANT TO SPEND MY TIME BABYSITTING!!!!

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  11. 4real

    You never stated if your wife approved of your cheating….. that doesn’t count? Thats the problem…. there is no respect or consideration for the betrayed. It’s like our feelings are not considered…..

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  12. 4real

    You never stated if your wife approved of your cheating….. that doesn’t count? Thats the problem…. there is no respect or consideration for the betrayed. It’s like our feelings are not considered…..

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    1. Derek G

      or a bitter old hateful judgemental kunt (spelled wrong so it can be posted) who justifies her hatred and violence as punishement with her god and Christian bullshit. I’d cheat on you too,you sound like my ex. You dont have to worry about inner beauty hateful hag,from the rampage under different names on here all in one day I can see you have none.Your a toxic vile old bitch,and crazy. Now go stuff that fire and brimstones B.S up your spiteful,condeming ass!

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  13. Susan Podolski

    My husband bought prostitutes in Singapore in 2010, the we went to Cartagena Colombia in 2011 and he was caught buying prostitutes again,. I filed for divorce and he ended up marrying a prostitute his name is Daniel Minnehan working with CB&I the prostitutes is Sandra Lemus!! Oh well he got her off the streets and I got rid of the loser!!

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  14. menarebiologicallypolygamous

    dumb dumb dumb! there’s something wrong with a man if he doesnt try to get all the tail he can. it has nothing to do with how good a husband he is. its not even ‘cheating’. Cheating is not playing by the rules of marriage, that is not accepting your role as a man. Being a henpecked dominated loser, and letting your wife wear the pants, thats cheating…

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